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“	So, I just found out about the “fake prom” stunt pulled by the parents of students in Itawamba County Mississippi.  I discovered the topic by Twitter from @buytabutoys and I thought I would share my response with you that I left on their bulletin board:
Actual Photo from the “secret” prom.

This is an absolutely abhorrent act of discrimination. In particular it disturbs me deeply that the African-American students could even participate in such an event as a “secret prom”.  Sufficient to say I don’t expect better with the public education system. However, if these young African-Americans knew their local history they would find that this same stunt was pulled 45 years ago in Mississippi on a young black girl named Carolyn Tasmiya Miller during the height of the Civil Rights Movement. It would appear that there is no tolerance for anyone who doesn’t fit the chosen elite “cool kids” status. For me it all to well shines a light upon a factual reality about the United States.  Publicly we may like to show ourselves as an advanced and tolerant society willing to engage multiple paradigms and welcoming variety in opinion.  However, nothing could be farther from the truth.  Far too much of the U.S. still lives in a sheltered, isolated, and homogeneous world. If the only opinions you ever encounter are similar to your own, how then can there ever truly be a robust and open dialogue about change? As for the parents, I do not even know where to begin.  It’s sick and evil.  Truly, lack of judgement does not even begin to describe this.  I think I am more appalled that so many adults could band together for such an act in secrecy.  I could understand if the parents felt so strongly about their religious values and Constance and her date that they wanted to publicly hold a separate event.  I could respect that, even if I still would find it appalling.  The secrecy here is what is important to me.  Clearly the parents and faculty/staff involved knew that what they were doing was wrong and that if it was publicly known they would be crucified (pun at their expense intended). As for the students with disabilities?   I can’t even begin to talk about it.  When I was growing up my elementary school was the local magnet school for students with disabilities.  I grew up in the country, so financial resources with students with special needs were best left to a single school.  In hindsight, of course, I can see how socially disadvantageous that is to these students, but that’s not important. I grew up with some of my friends and playmates being students with disabilities.  I even was chosen to be a facilitator for a student with severe autism who could only communicate by a handheld computer on which he typed what he was trying to communicate. So, this issue is so deeply infuriating to me that I can’t even begin to put into words how much malice I feel in my heart for the people involve in planning this event. That’s it.  I’m done.  I got to stop before I start to word vomit.  Later peeps.

-Doc