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So, tonight I’m just sitting around and thinking about the way that swinging, polyamory, and non monogamy have an intersection.  After having a couple of drinks and kicking back for a while, it occured to me that similarity between the Kinsey scale of sexuality and nonmonogamy is obvious.  Just like the way Kinsey states that exclusive heterosexuality and exclusive homosexuality is abnormal and at end of the scales with most people being somewhere in the middle, so is the intersection between swingers and polyamorists with non-monogamists being somewhere in the middle.

By this line of thought polyamorists are more about the love between two or more people and put a higher value on the emotional connection between two or more people, whereas swingers put a stronger emphasis on maintaining emotional exclusivity with their primary sexual partners while engaging in open sexual relations with others.  The two seem at ends of a scale between emphasis on emotion and physicality while both share compersion as a common characteristic.  …but what does this mean?

Are nonmongamists somewhere in between?  What is a non-monogamist?  Perhaps BOTH are actually non-monogamists on the same scale which shows the balance between sex and love while also expressing that perhaps certain inviduals are capable of the similiar non-excluvisity trait in their romantic/sexual relationships?

There must be some actual connection between swingers and polyamorists, but what is it?  Surely there must be a common thread?  I really must think about this idea more and really try to figure it out.  I get the feeling that it must be explored and that the questions it will answer will have really powerful implications in the field of sexuality and love.  Who knows, I’ll figure out it down the road I’m sure of it.  I guess only time will tell.